Dealing with the other Debbie…

I’m Debbie, a coach, facilitator and change manager and recently I found out that I’m pregnant… at the time of writing this blog, I'm 14 weeks pregnant, for those interested!


Whilst this is the most wonderful news I could have hoped for, it has impacted my life hugely, it’s really putting my plans to the test and annoyingly for the first time in my life, I have to deal with the other Debbie… the one I call "Preggie Debbie"!


So, who is this other Debbie? She is the annoying voice in my head that commentates constantly with a series of negative thought processes. She makes me doubt who I am and what I’m capable of. I can honestly say, I’m a little fed up with her so I have taken it upon myself to use my own coaching techniques to put her straight again, find my confidence and most importantly find “normal Debbie”.


In my latest series of blogs 'The Inner Game of the Pregnancy Brain', I’m going to take you on this wonderful journey through every week of my pregnancy, discussing thoughts of Preggie Debbie, her doubts, fears and annoying little habits but most importantly helping you overcome your inner voice. I hope that each week you’ll leave this blog feeling more calm, confident and self-assured knowing that your “pregnancy brain” is completely under control!


Before we get started I need to paint you a picture of who I am… there are a few key things you should know about me. The first is that I am a business owner and my work has helped me to achieve a life of balance. I work with clients to help them achieve their goals, remove their fears, manage negative emotions and build their confidence. My work with business clients supports them in problem-solving, team building and leadership development, whilst my work is incredibly varied, I absolutely love every aspect of it.


The second thing you should know is that I talk to myself a lot! Just to clarify, this is not out loud… (That’s the first sign of madness!), I mean in my own head. In the coaching world we refer to this as being highly auditory digital, my partner Tom, on the other hand, affectionately calls it “being in my something box”! He’s the complete opposite, a “nothing box” so he never talks to himself. A very strange concept to me and something I could never imagine myself doing.


Another thing you should know is that I don’t do “what if’s” EVER! If a decision needs to be made, I jump straight in. I don’t like to ponder or wonder what might happen, so when I found out I was pregnant and Preggie Debbie asked me “can I deal with this right now?” my answer was simply, “Yes, of course, I can!”. In addition to this, and much to Tom’s dislike I always follow this quote; “There is no try; there is only do or do not do!” So, move over Preggie Debbie I’m doing this baby thing.


Finally, and this may shock you… I don’t know very much about babies or pregnancy at all. In fact, I know so little that when I found out I was pregnant; I made an appointment with my GP to confirm this “diagnosis". Unfortunately, I was completely unaware that no one actually checks you are pregnant in the early stages, so you have to completely figure this out on your own. Ok, so I’m sure it’s not the hardest thing to work out… eventually, I’ll be in labour and then a baby will arrive, but a little reassurance would have been great, especially in this odd transitional period I was going through.


So, that’s pretty much all you need to know for now. I hope you find my coaching techniques helpful along the way, and if you need additional support or have any questions you can always pop me an email at Plus, I’d love to hear how many weeks pregnant you are, do you have a nickname for your inner voice? Is she beginning to irritate you and get in your way? Connect with me via my social channels; I’d love to hear from you- Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn.