How often throughout your day do you stop and listen to your unconscious mind? Are you talking to yourself in a positive way or is it negative? If you’re popping out to the shops do you say “don’t forget the milk”? Or, “remember the milk?”. How we talk to ourselves can have an impact on both our happiness, and outlook. As of late, Preggie Debbie hasn’t been around much to grace me with her negative thoughts… to be honest I’m quite pleased about that and I’m feeling so much better in my second trimester. I’ve even learnt that maternity jeans are THE most comfortable things ever, might consider wearing them post pregnancy!!
Recently however, I was watching a re-run of the US drama, The Blacklist. Towards the end of the episode ‘Philomena’, Kaplin in reciting a saying to baby Agnes “You are safe. You are loved. You are wise.” This got me thinking about affirmations and in the early days of my pregnancy, I started to think about how the words of a parent can impact the unconscious thoughts and beliefs of a child.
Lately, Tom and I have been discussing what words and affirmations we should display in the nursery, why? Because we want to build a positive aura around our baby right from day one! We want our new baby to feel like he/she can do anything, creating a positive person who can take on any challenge and be anything they want to be in the future. With that in mind, we started putting together some quotes we love including;
“Be a pineapple. Stand tall, wear a crown and be sweet on the inside”
“When it rains look for rainbows. When it’s dark look for stars”
“There is something that you must always remember. You are braver than you believe; stronger than you seem; and smarter than you think”
“Keep shining beautiful one. The world needs your light”
I also have a very strong attachment to the lyrics of the Robbie William’s song ‘Love My Life’. It's had such a strong important meaning to me all through my pregnancy and I sing I to my bump whenever it comes on.
“I’ll pray that I’m giving you all that matters
So one day you’ll say to me
I love my life
I am powerful
I am beautiful
I am free
I love my life
I am wonderful
I am magical
I am me
I love my life”
In fact I love the lyrics so much that I chose it as my last song on the radio show Everyday People (it was the real reason why I chose this song). As a parent-to-be and business owner, I regularly use affirmations to turn lessons learnt into my own pieces of advice. If I have encountered a disappointing situation, I take the lesson from it, understand it completely and create a positive quote for myself which I repeat regularly to empower me to make better decisions in the future. I want to be able to empower my child to do this too. So that when my child is off to school, feeling a little scared he or she will know that they can take on anything! Going into school with a positive attitude to accomplish whatever they set their mind to and have a good experience.
As a parent or leader of a team are you aware of how your inner thoughts are impacting your success, your team’s success or even that of your child? Join me for a Best Year Yet programme which is designed for individuals or, if you’re part of a team consider The Curve programme. To read more about positive attitudes, take a look at my latest post- Positive Attitudes In Leaders.